February 12, 2004
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What is love… baby don’t hurt me.
I wrote this entry a year ago… (man, was it that long ago?) and thought that many of my beliefs back then are the same today in regards to VALENTINES DAY… Without further adoooo,
How many people actually know the story behind Valentines? Well… according to a recent radio commercial and some research on the history channel website, I learned that back in the day (3rd century) there was a bishop/priest dude by the name of Valentine who worked for Emperor Claudius II. Well, Claudius was an ass and forbade young, strappling studs to get married. He believed that these youthful bucks made better soldiers than married ones. Afterall, who would really want to be tied down to a nagging wench at that age anyway? Just kidding. Anyway, Valentine thought this practice was banal, so he aided marrying these hunks to their supple breasted fiances… but in secret. But someone obviously couldn’t keep a good secret, and Claudius became royally pissed off. He sentenced Valentine to death.
Yet when Valentine was in jail, he fell in luf (love with a Chinese accent). It’s expected that he fell head over heals for the jailor’s buxom daughter. The day of his execution he wrote her a love letter ending with the words… “From your Valentine.” Then he was probably skewered, burned at the stake, or subjected to some other horrible way of dying during those evil evil days. Tragic indeed.
I swear I have a point to all this.
So… with a story like this, I suppose this holiday is celebrating the drama of unattainable love… or something like that. But lets honestly think about this in modern times… What has ever happened to the St. Valentine, Romeo and Juliet, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon type of love? You know… the type of love you would die for. Perhaps I’m being completely cynical about the matter, but is there anything left of this type of love in modern times, or have we Americans been subjected to the overdramatic social construction of undying, dramatic, hardcore romance depicted in movies, plays, and holidays such as Valentines?
I believe a good reason why 50% of married couples get divorced in America revolves around this ridiculous, overdramatic, notion of unattainable love. It’s the concept of love I feel people are caught up in… People are in love with love… Sure, it’s a good reason to get married to someone, but it shouldn’t be the only reason.
The other day I heard an old man, who was married to his wife for like 74 years, say that the trick to a happy marriage is “Total dedication to an imperfect person.” I believe it’s more about respect which keep people together. I don’t believe anyone would actually say “love is the answer.” I mean come on. Psha…
You know what they say though… “Love is Blind.” You may be marrying a wifebeater who probably doesn’t wipe his ass after he takes a shit. Is this what you want “love” to be all about? I suggest you take that blindfold off and really think about your relationship with that person. Are you in love with love, or are you actually in love with that shitfaced wifebeater?
Happy Valentines Day
Comments (9)
again i feel enlightened…hahaha…and hand job eh?…NICE!…self love…narcissism?…or mebe not…take cares…ur probs the only trojan i actually like…=)
One prop for fighting the establishment.
Second prop for being funny.
nice site
Love to die for…
I want to somewhat agree to an extent that yes.. we all yearn for that type of love. But most of the time we see it, it’s acknowledged through a movie. Sure we all hold this type of faith and question will it ever be possible to feel that. I have never seen it, and the times i have in movies, i havent really been moved by it. Maybe thats because I’ve been so callous about love for so long that i dont accept it anymore.. i wish i did because it would friggin make things much more easier instead of turning me into a fickle and apathetic person.. damn.. story of my life.
but i did like your entry.. very eye opening
Totally enjoyed the entry..but as the hopeless romantic mooshy sappy ass person that i am i can actually say that i would want that “to die for” love..and yea i do believe in actual love..not the “i’m in love with love” love..lol..I’m completely in love with someone i would never wanna change..love her for all the lil weird things she does..love her for exactly who she is. But i think u had a good point..when i finally read it..lol..have a good one..
Boy. I ADORE your posts. You don’t post much, but when you DO…Wow. It’s so refreshing to read some intelligent posts. I’ve been going through some sort of enlightenment or inspiration withdrawl. You’ve cured me. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I adore you to PIECES. *resumeasskissing*
Wow, Buddy everytime I see you, you are always chipper and happy. This is quite the contrast! I love it! It really makes you think! MIss you lots we need to do lunch or dinner!!
Love is not being with the perfect person, but seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
“god is luf.”
– Mom
props to you stranger.